My plan today was to post this really cute video of Little A, but alas, I had technical difficulties. Where "technical difficulties" means that she was completely uncooperative and acted like a possessed demon for most of the afternoon. So, I'm having to go with Plan B.
My BFF, being who she is, identified that I have not been myself as of late. I do have a couple of major things on my mind on that moment, that I'm not ready to share here yet, but there is one that I am. And I need your help. I'm begging to my
Hubby & I used to have these 2 friends who were like family to us. We'll call them Bob & Jane. They lived a couple of hours away, but Bob's parents live here, so we used to see each other with reasonable frequency. (We also used to be REALLY close to Bob's parents too) Holidays were spent together and they came down after the birth of Big A and spent some time. They are a bit younger that us and they had no children, so after Big A was born, we started seeing each other even more frequently. The relationship became so tight at one point that we asked this couple if they would assume guardianship of Big A, if anything ever happened to hubby & I. We were like peas and carrots.
Well, Little A was born and things got even more hectic around my house. It came time to plan Big A's 2nd birthday party and I really wanted to do something easy. I ended up booking an indoor playground area at 11am on a Monday morning. My thoughts were to have a really small get together of immediate family (who didn't have to work) and some kids from my playgroup. About 15-20 people total. I invited Bob's parents because Bob's mom used to have Monday's off and the venue was really close to her house. I did not, however, invite Bob & Jane. Since they lived almost 2 hours away and it was a Monday, I didn't think they would be able to come anyway and I didn't want to give the impression that I was fishing for a gift. I didn't give it a second thought. The party came & went and I was informed by Bob's mom that apparently my lack of invitation was a big deal.
So, that weekend, I called Bob to apologize for my oversight and attempted to explain my reasoning on not inviting them. I was cut off before I could say anything and told to call Jane and talk with her. Uh oh, apparently this was bigger than I thought. Miffed that I had been rudely cut off by Bob, I called Jane ready to argue my court case. Jane was pissed. Really pissed. I explained my reasoning on the matter and apologized twice and was basically told that I "should be sorry". And then she said she was busy and had to go and she hung up on me. This was October of 2006.
Two months later, we arrived to celebrate Christmas at Bob's parents house and ran into Bob & Jane. It was the worst, most uncomfortable situation that I've ever been in. They didn't want to talk to us and I was pissed that the whole birthday invitation thing had been blown into this gigantic proportion. (So, I'm sure I wasn't a joy to be around either. I tend to hold onto stuff and it manifests in ugly glances.)
And here we are, coming up on 2 years later and nothing has changed. Jane & I haven't spoken. I don't think Bob & I have spoken. We've basically stopped communicating with Bob's parents. We see Bob's parents on a very rare occasion, but everything has changed drastically. And Bob & Jane had their first child a few months ago.
Last week, hubby called Bob and laid down an ultimatum. He told him that he was basically tired of all this nonsense and that if things didn't get resolved between all of us soon that there would be no more relationship at all. (Or at least this is kind of what he relayed to me. I wasn't present for the conversation, so I'm going off a very vague translation.) And, not surprisingly, nothing has happened.
So, I ask you my
Would you just suck it up and email or call these 2 and say let's leave this in the past and start fresh?
Would you demand an apology for what you might construe as really childish behaviour and making a mountain out of a mole hill?
Would you just ignore it and move on because you don't need friends like that anyway?
I'm at a loss. And you guys are way cheaper than a psychiatrist. Help!
